^Say. Their. Names.^

If you know someone who has lost a child…and not just recently…it could have been 5, 10, 20 years ago…

Say. Their. Names.

Don't be afraid you're going "to remind them" they know. They're afraid you forgot.

Not sure what to say...google it. Literally. There's an article for that. A book for that. A blog post. A video. It's there. There are mothers all over the internet who have lost children and share their “I wish people would…” advice. “I don’t know what to say” translates to “I haven’t tried to figure it out.” It’s hard. I know. It’s harder for them. Also…it’s hard because you’re avoiding it…lean into it. Don't let your discomfort define you. Show up.

Say. Their. Names.

Here’s a few ways to start and a not so big secret…yes it will be uncomfortable…do. it. anyway.

“Hey remind that time when…”

“Did you know that everytime I eat pizza I think of that time when…”

“I was in the store today and there was a little boy named _______…it just felt like a sign to call and tell you I love you.”

“What was that ice cream shop _____ loved? We should make it a monthly thing to go get a scoop there together.”

“How can I help…{follow up with a few suggestions to break the ice}”